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Don't Speak Your Truth

“Speak your truth.”

“I’m speaking my truth.”


Ehhh yuck. I’m really not a fan of this one liner. The whole point of claiming your truth goes against the concept of truth to begin with because the word "truth" means verifiable fact or reality.


There is a difference between objective truth and subjective feelings. Truth is absolute.



If everyone goes around speaking their own truth, then there really isn’t any truth left to stand on.

So what is truth? What is THE truth – not my truth, not your truth, not our truth.


THE truth is found in Scripture. If you are a believer, then there is only one set of standards that constitutes the truth.


Therefore, the common saying spoken out of the mouths of celebrities, written in the captions of Instagram, and heard from those who want to proclaim their own quips and mottos to buy and believe is simply wrong.


As Christians, we believe that the Bible is THE truth.


I can’t claim that any of my words are the truth apart from the Holy Scriptures that I include in each post. Only God’s Word is wholly accurate, entirely prophetic, and fully true.


When I’m feeling particularly down or selfish, it’s easy for me to form my own set of “truths,” but they are complete lies. Here are a few:

  • I deserve to be happy.

  • I am better than this situation, and I shouldn’t have to face it.

  • That person doesn’t measure up to my standards, and I shouldn’t have to interact with him/her.

  • I don’t need to think about others; I need to watch out for my own best interests.

  • What that person thinks of me really matters, so I need to adjust my outer appearance/personality/style in order to gain acceptance.

The problem is, we let our feelings lie to us all the time. Our own motivations and biases persuade us to believe whatever will suit our own needs. We can't just follow our hearts. So, if we are the standard that is speaking truth in our own lives, we are letting ourselves down constantly.


God provides His truth – the truth – in the Word. In fact, the verses in the Bible are meant to serve as a measure to discern all the other sayings of the world and separate lies from truth.

“For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joins and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart” (Heb. 4:12).

Here, the verses in the Bible are compared to a sword that can cut through the grime of our hearts that lead us to believe lies. God’s Word has the ability to speak to our hearts and help transform our understanding from the deception of the world to the everlasting, eternal truth that extends beyond our own temporary lives and circumstances.


We are given Scripture so that we can learn, grow, and walk in truth.

“All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work” (2 Tim. 3:16-17).

If God’s Word can train us, correct us, teach us, and equip us, then why are we obsessed with finding our own truth?


As much as I want to love individualism and seek my own best interests, that pursuit leaves me feeling empty every single time.


I can’t count on my own intuition or wisdom to accurately measure my interactions and experiences.

Instead, I need to use God’s Word as my measure. God’s Word is the ONLY standard of truth that I can rely on and rest in.

"Don't Speak Your Truth" is week 3 of the month-long series "Common Sayings Debunked."

Here are the first two weeks:


1. Sorry Not Sorry

2.Follow Your Heart


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