• Kara Abernathy

What to Do When You Feel Stuck

Feeling Stuck and Stressed

“Nothing seems to change in my life.”

“I’m stuck in the same season I was last year, and the year before, and the year before that.”

“Why does this aspect of my life remain stagnant?”

  • Do you feel that way?

  • Do you resonate with repeating the same season?

  • Do you feel stuck?

I remember feeling like all of my prayers were repetitive and my situation wasn’t changing. I was waiting on the Lord with a discouraged and discontent heart.

It seems as if everyone experiences times when they desperately seek a transformation.

Perhaps your professional life is thriving but you desire a baby and just can’t get pregnant. Maybe your personal life is full of social events with friends, but your romantic relationships look bleak. Possibly you want to change jobs or sell your house and the market just isn’t quite right.

No matter what the struggle, it’s understandable to experience that stinge of resentment when your situation isn’t changing and people around you have the new.

Psalms for Comfort

When I feel the most stuck, I find relief and solace in reading the psalms. They are short poems and songs that take only a few minutes to read. Actually, my husband and I made a pact to read one psalm a night before going to bed in the fall.

It may have taken us 150 days to get there (or if we are honest, a few dozen more for days we forgot or were on opposite sleeping schedules due to work). Still, reading through the book of Psalms one at a time led us to the up and down emotions of the people of the Bible.

Just like us, they experience all the feels. There are psalms of discomfort, strength, neediness, celebration, worship, and grief.

There is versatility in this book. Poured out emotions fill the pages – raw and relatable.

Patience for God to Move

A particular psalm that stands as a beacon of hope during any stuck season is Psalm 40. I challenge you to read the whole chapter after finishing this blog post.

“I waited patiently for the LORD;
he inclined to me and heard my cry.
He drew me up from the pit of destruction,
out of the miry bog,
and set my feet upon a rock,
making my steps secure.
He put a new song in my mouth,
a song of praise to our God.
Many will see and fear,
and put their trust in the LORD” (Psalm 40:1-3).

This passage’s powerful imagery expounds on the before and after with God.

Before: a pit of destruction, a miry bog.

After: a rock, a new song.

I remember feeling eager to have God put a new song in my mouth. I was tired of singing the same song, repeating the pent up frustrations and failings that made up different aspects of my stuck season. Maybe you are, too.

The good news is that no matter how long it takes, God is actively putting a new song in our mouths. Sure, we might want to speed up the timeline to get out of the stuck season sooner. Still, God is working.

Reality check: if God can express patience against all of my sin, all of my disobedience, and all of my imperfection, I can be patient with the timing of His divine plan for my life.

Waiting patiently for the Lord ends in a song of praise for what the Lord has done. Not only that, but the story of what He has accomplished through us will lead to others putting their trust in Him, too.

If you desire a new song in your mouth and are unsure where to start, start with prayer. Petition the Lord and see how He moves your heart to align with His path. Two great resources for prayer are on the Resources + Freebies page.

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© 2019 Kara Abernathy

Disclaimer: my thoughts do not necessarily reflect the thoughts of my employer.

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